Most people tend to think that marriage is the ultimate form of a protean friendship, or a sacred vow, a marital bond that is meant to be based on the principles of love, trust and mutual respect.
However, it is important to bear in mind that even love alone cannot be the ultimate guide to resolving conflicts; even the strongest bonds often face the possibility of hardships and turbulent paths at some point or the other.
So, if a couple is facing marital conflict and wants to rebuild the marital relationship, they need to consciously make an attempt at marriage reconciliation. Even though this can be a tough journey, by simply understanding its importance and the steps involved to overcome these challenges, it can make a huge difference in saving the relationship.
The first challenge is communication: there is lack of flow and misunderstandings can occur because they are not really listening to each other, not without interrupting each other.
The second main challenge is resentment: the hurt of the past is festering in their heart. They feel that something in their marriage is blocking or hurting them.
The third main challenge is trust: ‘I am still angry about what happened and I still do not understand why he did that. Even in his apologies, I do not feel safe enough to be able to trust him again.’
The fourth main challenge is the fear that the same problem might happen again: both partners are fearful that the rupture will continue, and each thinks that the other is not really ready for reconciliation.
So, how can reconciliation be achieved? The author suggest five preconditions for marriage reconciliation.
The first one is communication. Dialogue is not really a conversation where each one ventilate their feelings. Dialogue is a two-way track where you are really listening to the other person and you let them finish speaking. The opposite of this is interrupting the other person when they speak.
Second, both partners need to be ready to forgive. If one asks ‘Why did you do that?’ They have to carefully listen for the other person’s response to learn the reasons.
A third precondition is the two should be willing to forgive and let go of past hurts. Do you need professional counselling help to overcome the issues in your marriage? If yes, feel free to call us at +1 (310) 225-2442
Marriage reconciliation is very important and even is good for many reasons.
First, it proves the the commitment of a couple to each other. Reconciliation show that the both side are willing to have the relationship with each other to be successfully in their life.
Second, the reconciliation of married couples makes the family healthier especially if there are children. If the parents know that they can reconcile with each other in the end, the children will certainly have a good model on dealing with each other.
Third, reconciliation will bring happiness to heart. Angry and resentment may cause stress and anxiety. All these will be gone if they can have the relationship with a lighter heart and mind.
Fourth, reconciliation makes a person better person. Reflecting on being able to get over some issues will make them realised what they should change on themselves for be better.
Finally, it is important to the marriage because the married couples make a promise to live humbly and never leave each other in life.
Reconciliation in marriage not necessarily easy, but it is worth it. It is a process through which two people can transform their relationship and emerge stronger. Sufficient will to reconcile and an understanding of the real value of the relationships will contribute to developing good relationships based on respect, something most important in marriages. In essence, marriage is an alliance of two people who support and stand by each other.